Hi friends! We are just a few days away from Christmas and I’m really looking forward to spending this week with my family. We celebrated Christmas with my in-laws this weekend and had just the best time. Little A also had her first dance recital! If you follow me on Instagram you saw the photo of my little mouse. She did amazing and we were so, so proud of her.
2015 was a year of definite change for me. As the year comes to a close, I’ve been spending the few quiet moments that I have in reflection, and thinking about all the things I learned this year. About my businesses, my career choices, my child, my passion, and of course just myself and my own happiness. When I really sit back to think about all that I’ve learned, it comes down to 3 major life lessons for me.
3 Lessons I Learned in 2015.
Do what makes you happy. For so many years I worked in corporate America and was extremely unhappy and sometimes downright miserable. Of course it wasn’t all bad, but I always wondered what it was all for. I wasn’t passionate about airplanes, or IT or even coffee for that matter (now if it were wine I’d probably still be working). So why was I continuing to bang my head against a wall day after day, only to go home feeling unfulfilled? I was stuck in the rat race because I felt like I had to be. But thanks to my hubby, I was able to finally leave the corporate world to do what I’d wanted to do for 4 years: be home with my daughter.
Being a stay at home mom is not glamorous, and it’s not even remotely pretty most of the time. It has been the hardest job I’ve ever had and there are days that I wonder if I made the right decision, but I love waking up to Little A each morning and the extra cuddles we get. I am so glad I’m the one who gets to take her to dance class and preschool. And I’m so thankful that I get to be the one raising her and instilling our values on her life. We’re raising the next generation of teachers, parents, leaders and more. I can only hope I do half as good of a job raising my kiddos as my own stay at home mom did raising me.
I also now have time to focus on my other passions: this space and my essential oils business. These two things make me so much happier than corporate America ever could.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, or like you can’t get out because of money, fear of failure or whatever, just remember that it’s okay to follow your dreams. It’s usually the dreamers that make the biggest difference in the world. Life’s too short to spend most of your days doing something that doesn’t bring you joy.
Don’t forget to take care of yourself. This is something I’ve just recently felt strongly about, mostly because I’m with Little A 24/7 with very few breaks each day. No quiet time, no alone time, no time just to stop and think about my needs and what I need to do to take care of myself. And it’s really taken a toll on me emotionally and physically. I shared about trying to find my inspiration again after feeling so lost when I started staying home full time. I attribute part of that loss of inspiration to not taking care of me. This can be really challenging, especially for stay at home moms. But it is vital to not just our health and happiness, but to our family’s happiness. A happy, relaxed mom is much better than a strung out, overwhelmed, under appreciated one.
Even if it’s just an hour or two to yourself a few times a month, remember to take time to step away from work, social media, kids, whatever. Just do it. Take a nice long bath. Grab a cup of coffee and go for a nice walk. Get a massage. Just make sure you take time for YOU.
Self-reflection is a powerful tool. Like I said at the beginning of this post, I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting on my life these last few weeks. And really I spent a good amount of time in self-reflection throughout the year. A lot of the personal development books I read this year really made me think about my life. Without even knowing it, they inspired me to take a good hard look at how I was living my life and make changes for the better. I guess that’s what being inspired is all about right? Becoming better, making changes to better our lives and ourselves. And self-reflection is a key part of that.
I’ve previously shared that I journal a lot (there is a full post on journaling coming soon!). Part of journaling, for me, is the process of thinking about what I want to write. And a lot of what I think about in turn provides me with opportunities for self reflection. It’s amazing what taking a few minutes out of your day to reflect on what went on can do for you and your mindset.
As hard as 2015 was at times, it was also a really great year for us. I’m super excited for 2016 and all the excitement that it has in store for us, but I’m taking the time to really think about 2015 and use some lessons I learned 2016 an even better year.
Any life lessons or takeaways you have from 2015?